225 Long-Distance Relationship Questions to Spark Deeper Conversations

Get a PDF copy of these questions

Looking for long-distance relationship questions to liven up your video call dates?

These 225 long-distance relationship questions are designed to help you spark deeper conversations about your everyday life, childhood memories, dreams for the future, and many more topics.

Learning about each other ties into the primary purpose of dating, so asking meaningful questions is one of the best ways to make the most of your time apart.

Long-Distance Relationship Conversation Topics

To give you a preview of the conversation topics, here are a few example questions for long-distance relationships:

  1. Travel: If you could visit anywhere, where would you go and what would you do?
  2. Childhood Memories: What was your favorite book series as a kid?
  3. Interesting Experiences: What are the worst weather conditions you’ve ever driven in?
  4. Everyday Life: Do you care how many unread emails you have?
  5. Family Relationships: What are your siblings like? What makes each one unique?
  6. Friendships: Who knows you better than you know yourself?
  7. Personality: What are five simple things that bring you joy?

How To Use These 225 Long-Distance Relationship Questions


Let’s be real: even marathon-callers can’t conquer 225 questions in a single video call. Keep track of which long-distance relationship questions you’ve answered by downloading the PDF version of this list, available in the flowery box at the top of this page. 

A few topics (Theology & Doctrine, Personal Faith, and Local Church) are specifically designed to foster deep conversations between believers in Christ. However, if you’re not a Christian, you’ll still benefit from at least 180 long-distance relationship questions.

Use the menu below to navigate between different topics.

Topics for Long-Distance Relationship Questions

  1. Travel
  2. Childhood Memories
  3. Interesting Experiences
  4. Everyday Life
  5. Family Relationships
  6. Friendships
  7. Personality
  8. College & Career
  9. Philosophy
  10. Community Involvement
  11. Theology & Doctrine
  12. Personal Faith
  13. Local Church


  1. What makes a good travel companion?
  2. Have you been to another country? What did you appreciate about the culture there?
  3. When you travel, do you prefer to do touristy activities or go off the beaten path?
  4. What’s the most interesting animal you’ve seen in the wild?
  5. When have you needed to use survival skills?
  6. Have you ever forgotten to pack something really important?
  7. What natural landscapes do you love most? (Mountains, ocean, forest, etc.)
  8. Do you plan a detailed itinerary before traveling or do you jump in the car and go?
  9. If you could visit anywhere, where would you go and what would you do?
  10. Where’s the highest place you’ve ever stood?
  11. What’s the most beautifully-designed building you’ve ever seen?
  12. Do you speak any other languages? How did you learn them?
  13. If you could learn any language instantly, which language would you choose and why?
  14. Have you ever been on a short-term mission trip? What did you do?
  15. Would you move overseas short-term or permanently? Why or why not?
  16. What’s your favorite mode of transportation and why? (Car, plane, boat, bicycle, etc.)
  17. What national parks and major landmarks have you visited? What did you like about them?
  18. Did your family often take vacations when you were growing up?
  19. What’s the key to an awesome road trip?
  20. What part of God’s creation leads you to worship most frequently?
  21. Which country’s culture would be the most difficult to adapt to?
  22. Are you an urban dweller or a nature lover? Why?
  23. What are the features of an ideal place to live?
  24. How should a person prepare for moving overseas?
  25. How important is learning another language?


Back to question topics


Childhood Memories

  1. Did you break any bones as a kid? What was the story?
  2. What was the worst part about middle school?
  3. Who was your favorite high school teacher, and how did they impact you?
  4. What’s one achievement you worked really hard for?
  5. Did you have birthday parties as a kid? Which one was your favorite and why?
  6. What sports did you play growing up?
  7. Have you had any near-death experiences?
  8. What was your neighborhood like? Did you play with the kids next door?
  9. What was the best game you made up as a kid?
  10. What’s your all-time favorite Christmas present?
  11. What was the coolest Lego creation you ever built?
  12. What toy did you think you would never outgrow?
  13. Did you ever get in trouble in elementary school?
  14. What are your best sleepover memories?
  15. How did you handle the dentist’s office as a kid?
  16. What was your favorite book series as a kid?
  17. What chores did you love and hate?
  18. Who taught you how to drive?
  19. How did your driving test go?
  20. If you could change the meaning of your name, what would it be?


Back to question topics


Interesting Experiences

  1. Have you ever gotten stuck in an elevator?
  2. What’s the longest you’ve waited in line for something?
  3. What are the worst weather conditions you’ve ever driven in?
  4. What’s the biggest mistake you’ve made as a leader, and how did you learn from it?
  5. What’s the worst haircut you’ve ever had?
  6. What’s the most satisfying meal you’ve ever eaten?
  7. Have you ever gotten in trouble with the law?
  8. Would you ever run for an elected government position?
  9. Would you become an astronaut if you had the chance?
  10. When was a time you got really dirty or muddy? What happened?
  11. What’s something you regret purchasing?
  12. If you were to write a book, what genre would it be?
  13. What’s the best surprise you’ve ever received?
  14. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ordered on Amazon?
  15. Would you move back to the place you grew up in?
  16. Did your parents ever leave you behind at a store?
  17. What’s the best board game you’ve ever played?


Back to question topics


Everyday Life

  1. How skilled are you at keeping plants alive?
  2. Why is your favorite pair of pants your favorite?
  3. What’s the most dominant color in your wardrobe and why?
  4. How do you react if your morning routine gets messed up?
  5. How do your music choices influence your daily emotions and vice versa?
  6. What elements of a store or online shop make you want to return?
  7. What’s the most complicated meal you’ve made and how did you learn to make it?
  8. Do you keep a budget? Is it helpful?
  9. Are you a saver or a spender?
  10. Where is your favorite coffee shop and why do you love it?
  11. How do you usually hear about the latest news? (podcasts, newspaper, Facebook)
  12. What books have greatly impacted your thinking?
  13. What are you currently reading?
  14. Do you care about how many unread emails you have?
  15. What gives someone’s home an inviting atmosphere?
  16. What’s an item you don’t like to share with other people?
  17. How often do you write and receive letters?
  18. What’s the most thought-provoking podcast you’ve heard recently?
  19. Do you have any interesting stories from odd jobs?
  20. What’s the secret to becoming an excellent storyteller?


Back to question topics


Family Relationships

  1. How would you describe what makes your family special?
  2. What are your siblings like? What makes each one unique?
  3. How close are you with your siblings, and do you wish you were closer?
  4. What do you respect and love about each of your parents?
  5. What lesson are you most thankful your parents taught you?
  6. How similar are you to your parents’ personalities?
  7. What do you wish your parents did differently?
  8. Are your parents content with where they are and what they’re doing?
  9. Who are your favorite relatives?
  10. Were/are you close with your grandparents?
  11. Where is your family originally from, and how much of that culture has your family retained?
  12. Does your family make any special heritage foods? What’s the process?
  13. How does your family celebrate holidays?
  14. What’s your favorite meal to eat at your parents’ house and why?
  15. How can I pray for your family?


Back to question topics



  1. Who knows you better than you know yourself?
  2. Who do you go to with computer problems?
  3. Are small or large groups more life-giving to you?
  4. Who is the happiest person you know, and why?
  5. Who always makes you laugh?
  6. Do you keep in touch with your high school friends, and will you continue to?
  7. Do you enjoy making new friends?
  8. Does hosting people make you stressed or excited?
  9. Is it hard for you to maintain long-distance friendships
  10. What friends of yours do you think I should get to know more?
  11. How many people really, truly know you?
  12. Who’s someone you’d like to become friends with?
  13. How have your friends influenced who you are?
  14. What’s the best movie to watch with a group of friends?
  15. Do friends always make good roommates?
  16. Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or family member?


Back to question topics



  1. What are you most passionate about in life?
  2. What times of day do you have the most energy?
  3. Do you make decisions based on emotions or logic?
  4. How accurate are personality tests?
  5. How do you feel about singing around other people?
  6. What types of surprises do you enjoy?
  7. What are five simple things that bring you joy?
  8. Who do you feel comfortable crying with?
  9. How do you destress after a long day?
  10. When was the last time you got really angry?
  11. What do you do when you’re sad?
  12. What’s comforting to you when you’re sick?
  13. What are signs you’re tired or stressed?
  14. How many hugs per day do you need to survive?
  15. In your entire life, when have you felt most loved?
  16. Which animal most closely represents your personality?
  17. Do you like to work with your hands?
  18. Do you prefer buying things new or used?
  19. What will you splurge on?
  20. What are your political leanings?
  21. What political topics are you passionate about?
  22. What are my strengths and weaknesses? What are yours?
  23. How are our personalities alike? How are we different?
  24. How do our personalities complement one another?
  25. What characteristics cause us to clash sometimes?
  26. Since we started dating, how has each of us changed for the better?


Back to question topics


College & Career

  1. When you were little, what did you want to be when you grew up?
  2. What’s the most interesting college class you’ve taken?
  3. What’s learning style and how do you study most effectively?
  4. What’s your favorite study spot on campus and why?
  5. What helps you survive finals week?
  6. How much does the “college experience” matter?
  7. Looking back, would you choose to attend the same college?
  8. How have you changed during college?
  9. Do you plan to stay involved as an alumni?
  10. How did you decide to pursue your major/career?
  11. What skills and gifts has God given you?
  12. How confident are you that you’ll stay in this field?
  13. What’s a fallback career for you, and why isn’t it your first choice?
  14. What’s your biggest career-related fear?
  15. Would you ever work for a nonprofit?
  16. Would you start your own business?
  17. What do you hope to achieve by age 40?
  18. What part of your job are you most passionate about?


Back to question topics



  1. Why do we pursue happiness, and what’s the key to having it?
  2. Where do you personally find your sense of purpose?
  3. Why do we feel guilt and shame?
  4. What’s your deepest regret?
  5. Why are humans afraid to die?
  6. What happens when you die?
  7. What sets apart the major world religions?
  8. What is truth, and how do you find it?
  9. Why does evil exist?
  10. What is faith?
  11. What’s your religious background?
  12. Who and what has influenced your thinking about religion most?
  13. How did the universe begin?
  14. Why do humans exist?
  15. What type of health is most important: emotional, spiritual, physical, or mental?
  16. How do you decide who is worthy of trust?


Back to question topics


Community Involvement

  1. What social injustices make you angry?
  2. What’s your perspective on the best and worst ways to help people in poverty?
  3. If you were to advocate for one social cause, what would you support?
  4. Do you enjoy spending time with kids and the elderly?
  5. What’s your favorite organization you’ve volunteered with?
  6. If you had a million dollars, what charities would you support?
  7. What do you think of the trend for businesses to focus on “social good”?
  8. What responsibility do we have to care for the environment?
  9. If you could start a nonprofit, what would you focus on?
  10. How have community organizations helped you?
  11. What difficult experiences of yours help you relate to others in their time of need?


Back to question topics


Theology & Doctrine

  1. What’s our purpose as humans?
  2. What is required for a person to be saved?
  3. Why did Jesus come to earth?
  4. Why does God allow suffering?
  5. What happens to people who don’t hear about Christ?
  6. How do you distinguish between primary (essential) and secondary doctrine?
  7. Where do you fall on the Armenian/Calvinist scale?
  8. What do you think about creation and evolution?
  9. How are humans different from animals?
  10. What makes a “good” church?
  11. What do you believe the Bible says about the roles of men and women in the church and in the home?
  12. How should the Bible guide our financial decisions, like debt and building wealth?
  13. What doctrine is most difficult for you to understand?
  14. What resources have helped you grow in knowledge of the Lord?
  15. What theological issues have you changed your position on?
  16. What characteristics of God are most attractive to you?
  17. Which characteristics of God are harder for you to accept?
  18. How would you describe the purpose and goal of missions?


Back to question topics


Personal Faith

  1. How did you become a follower of Jesus?
  2. Why do you follow Jesus?
  3. How has your life changed since you met Jesus?
  4. How would you share the gospel in your own words?
  5. How have you seen God’s faithfulness during difficult seasons?
  6. What have you been reading in the Bible lately?
  7. How has God increased your joy in Him in recently?
  8. How can I encourage you in your walk with the Lord?
  9. How does our relationship display the gospel and glorify God?
  10. Do you know your spiritual gifts? If so, how do you use them?
  11. What’s your favorite book of the Bible?
  12. What’s one passage of the Bible you don’t understand yet?
  13. Who has influenced your spiritual growth the most?
  14. What are you thankful for this week?
  15. How can I pray for you?


Back to question topics


Local Church

  1. Why are you a part of your church?
  2. What do you value most in your church?
  3. How has God encouraged or convicted you through your church community?
  4. Who’s an older believer you respect at your church?
  5. Have you ever been mentored or mentored someone?
  6. How do you feel about different styles of worship music?
  7. Where do you enjoy serving at your church?
  8. How would you describe your church to someone who’s never gone before?


Want More Long-Distance Relationship Resources?


If you liked these long-distance relationship questions, answer the question below to get Christ-centered, long-distance relationship resources sent straight to your inbox.

Get tips for surviving long-distance dating

Get equipped with tips to grow closer to Christ & your long-distance boyfriend.

What's the biggest challenge in your long-distance relationship right now?

Get 225 Questions for Long-Distance Relationships when you sign up for emails

Unsubscribe at anytime

Missing each other

My heart hurts for you.

Distance is tough. When you subscribe to emails below, I’ll send you resources to help you find joy in Christ in this season of suffering.


We all struggle with this.

When you subscribe to emails below, I’ll send you resources to help you and your boyfriend build a Christ-centered, long-distance relationship.

Pursuing sexual purity

You're not alone.

When you subscribe to emails below, I’ll send you resources to help you and your long-distance boyfriend pursue Christ-centered purity.

Save these questions for later