A Review of the Best Advice for Christian Long-Distance Relationships

While online resources for Christian long-distance relationships are limited, Dating at a Distance isn’t the only place to find good advice.

Other people have written about long-distance dating and passed on Biblical wisdom from their experiences.

Below, I’ve compiled a list of the best online articles with advice for Christian long-distance relationships.

When Marriage Is Miles Away: On Long-Distance Dating

This Desiring God article from Marshall Segal is a cornerstone piece of advice for Christian long-distance relationships. Segal draws on his experience dating his wife long distance to address the main benefits and challenges of long-distance dating for Christians.

One of the most helpful sections of the article includes tips for long-distance: (1) Be more skeptical of your feelings, (2) Work harder to get to know each other’s friends, and (3) Don’t think you don’t need boundaries.

Segal’s article was helpful to me while my husband and I were dating long distance. In fact, it’s one of the things that led me to eventually start this website.

If you’re looking for an overview of long-distance dating that’s sweeping yet insightful, check out the article on Desiring God.

Favorite Quote: “Distance does not remove sexual temptation. In fact, for many, the temptation will be much stronger when you are together. We foolishly try to make up for lost time physically, as if we owe each other something.”

Should I Move to the City Where My Long-Distance Boyfriend Lives?

Paula Hendricks Marsteller shared her long-distance love story with us, but she’s also written about long-distance relationships in this post on her blog.

Responding to a reader asking for advice, Marsteller shares her story of moving to the city where her now-husband lives. She gives a helpful explanation of how they decided who would move and when to move.

She also offers four questions to ask before moving, including: (1) Have you visited each other in-person? (2) Is your boyfriend a fellow believer in Christ alone for salvation? (3) Have you thought about who you would move in with? (4) Is your boyfriend involved in a solid church where you’d be able to find friends and community?

Check out the full post for guidance on making the decision to move.

Favorite Quote: “We were older, we knew we were intentionally moving toward marriage, and we wanted some time to observe each other doing life on a daily basis. It just seemed like a good idea to be close enough to see how the other navigated dynamics like family, flat tires, and stress when considering something as serious as marriage.”

Mourning the Death That Change Brings

This Revive Our Hearts blog post by Liz Wann is different from the other articles in that it addresses adapting to life after a long-distance relationship.

Looking back on her early days of marriage, Wann is honest that moving to a new city was more challenging than she expected. She describes growing through a season of dying to her old self and learning to embrace the new life God had given her.

If you’re thinking about marrying your long-distance boyfriend, I recommend reading her post to get a realistic look at what the future might look like.

Favorite Quote: “What I needed to do was process, mourn, and then embrace the death change brings. But like most people, I was trying to skip straight to the dancing and ignore the mourning. I wanted to get to the joy but didn’t know how to handle the sorrow. I wanted resurrection benefits, like peace, without going through spiritual death to get there.”

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